Being a mama of any color comes with a lot of challenges. But being a black mama means dealing with the anxiety of raising a black child in a white child’s world. Black mamas shouldn’t have to teach their boys to live in fear. Their black daughters should be able to freely reach for their dreams without being sexualized or demeaned.
We all have to be a part of this dismantling of racism that currently supports the foundation of our society. I have been silently observing over the past week, saving up all of the helpful resources that are being shared on social media. Following are some of my favorites for assisting white mamas to “Be the Change.”
1. Acknowledge that white privilege does, indeed exist.
I could attempt to explain it, but I think Lori Lakin Hutcherson does it best in this response to a white friend on whether this concept is a reality or not
The following YouTube video explains the issue of systemic racism, in simple, easy to digest terms
2. Seek out ways to incorporate more black friendships into your family’s life.
Don’t simply flock to your own. Sit by that black mama at the PTA meeting. Isn’t it a little dull to only hang out with people just like you? Or maybe you need to realize that in some ways people of color ARE just like you.
3. Educate yourself on racism.
Don’t rely on tired black people to do it. Take the initiative to find out for yourself.
Read all about it.
Here is a very well-put together list of books on the subject. I have especially heard good things about “Stamped from the Beginning: The Definitive History of Racist Ideas in America, ” so it is next up on my reading list.
Listen to a wise voice.
Out of all the resources shared in the last week that I took a look at–and there were a lot–I found this thoughtful explanation of why black people are so angry, by Daily Show host, Trevor Noah, most effective:
Kristen Howerton, who adopted two black boys, is another wise voice on the issue. I am looking forward to absorbing all the racial wisdom from her book, “Rage Against the Minivan,” as well.
Follow black voices on social media.
Kristen Howerton recommends following some of these wise black voices on Twitter.
You can also start paying attention to some of these black lifestyle bloggers.
Watch a movie on the issue of racism.
Start with some of these gems on Netflix.
4. Teach your children to be antiracist as well.
Watch this upcoming Sesame Street special that teaches racism on a child’s level.
Reach from the wonderful collection of teaching resources on Doing Good Together.
NPR also just released a great podcast titled How White Parents can Talk to their Kids about Race.
Have your teens read “STAMPED: RACISM, ANTI-RACISM, AND YOU.”
Read your little ones bedtime stories from this well-done collection:
5. Support black green mama businesses.
The next time you need a wellness product or service, try purchasing from one of these black-owned companies.
Here are some black-owned small businesses that place a high priority on sustainability measures.
Also check out some of these amazing black bloggers in the green blogging niche.
6. Become an advocate for racial justice.
Here is a comprehensive list of simple tasks you can complete that will make a difference.
Get involved with the NAACP, so that you can unite with others who are fighting for equality.
Open yourself up to learning
Learn about this #8cantwait project orchestrated by Campaign Zero to put an end to racially based police violence.
Learn about environmental racism and what you can do about it–it definitely exists.
Take a look at this amazing list of learning resources for white people.
7. Donate what you can to the cause.
Here are 10 Black Lives Matter organizations where you can donate to with confidence that they are using your money to create change.
Hey mamas, let me know what you are doing to bring about change.
Here is another resource for change you may be interested in reading.